Updated: Jul 28, 2021
Am I enough?
Have you ever wondered if you were ENOUGH? As a woman, I am being pulled in so many directions. I am a wife, a mother, a daughter-in-law, a sister, a friend and then there is the pressure for self-care. How can I be everything, for everyone...including myself?
According to Merriam-Webster, "ENOUGH" means to a degree or quantity that satisfies or that is sufficient or necessary for satisfaction. I was the product of a teen pregnancy. Growing up, I heard all about how being pregnant in high school made life more difficult. I vowed to find a significant other and fall in love—not because I was pregnant! I did exactly that. I met someone, took time to get to know them, and we planned for the future.
This role that I play is one of the hardest jobs that I have ever had. As a wife, there is so much that is required to satisfy my partner. Whether it's emotional or physical support, much is required. I have been with my partner for over a quarter of a century. In that time, I pride myself on knowing how they operate, what they need, how to make them feel loved, wanted, and needed.
This is not easy.
Do I give enough? Am I enough for this person?
Being with someone for a long time does not always mean that I am enough. I am constantly requesting validation.
The role of a wife is a hard job; but, being a mother is even harder. I constantly feel like what I do is not enough. I don't want to be that mother that does everything for her children, but I don't want to be the mother that doesn't do anything for her children.
How do I find the happy medium? Will that be ENOUGH?
As women, we often have insecurities and baggage that we carry throughout life. For me, I have the insecurity of being told as a child that my existence caused strife for my parental figure. That feeling throughout childhood has translated into my adult life as, "Do I cause strife to everyone that I come in contact with?"
How can I be enough for everyone by starting with such a deficit?
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