By: T.M. Brunson
I had written a totally different article to release on allmommyissues.com tonight; however, after seeing Oprah's interview with Meghan and Harry, it just weighed on my heart to talk about speaking your truth.
AMI mommies...(and I'm talking to each and every mom-figure out there!) If you are ever feeling hurt to the point where you don't want to live anymore and things become "unsurvivable" and you tell someone and they don't listen to you, please...I urge you...to get up the courage and find someone else to tell.
You are SO brave to even step forward to speak your truth and to let someone know that you're not ok. Don't let it end there.
I had an interaction with a mom today who was feeling all the feels from having another baby during these challenging times. I encouraged her to join the All Mommy Issues FB group because I know that we all will embrace her with open arms, and support her when she's feeling down, and empower her in a way that will help her get through whatever she's going through.
We All Need a Break
The thing that bothered me, the most, when listening to this interview is knowing that she went through all of this unnecessary stress during her first pregnancy; and, now, she's dealing with repercussions during her second pregnancy.
Can the girl catch a break?
I was talking to a different woman in our group earlier who told me that sometimes she feels like she can't breathe; and, that we all need a break sometimes, but we gotta keep pushing.
For all of you who feel like you can't breathe...take time for that breath. I know...sometimes easier said than done; but, it's so important that you take that time—even if it's just 15 minutes.
For all the women who are trying to get pregnant, but cannot due, in part, to unnecessary stress...
For all the women who are pregnant and not having the best of pregnancies, in part, due to unnecessary stress...
For all the women who choose not to have kids of their own, but who are important figures in other people's lives and are undergoing unimaginable stress... please know that there is light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. And you do not have to brave that journey alone. I am here for you. We are here for you. #AMIstrong
The World Watches with Bated Breath
Yes, there are two sides to every story. But seeing the fear in Meghan's eyes was real. Watching Prince Harry trying to protect his family was real.
How far would you go to protect your family?
I am very protective of my daughters. If someone comes at them in the wrong way and it's not warranted, I lash first and ask questions later. That's the mama bear in me.
My daughters know about segregation and how black people were, and still are, treated, today; but they don't understand why. They don't understand how people can treat others differently just based on the color of their skin.
My second oldest was watching the interview with me and asked, "They're not giving their baby a title because he might look Black?" She couldn't believe it! But, to me, it was no surprise. I've, personally, been looked down upon because of the color of my skin.
Depression and racial bias are real.
I am curious to see the fallout from this interview. The fact that Tyler Perry, a Black man, welcomed them into their home...the fact that Oprah Winfrey, a Black woman, allowed them to speak their truth.
..what effect will this have on the Palace vs. Prince Harry and Meghan?
For us, we can only be spectators; but Prince Harry and Meghan are living through these atrocities in real time. In our real lives, we need to have these uncomfortable conversations and get things out in the open and work through them.
Question of the Day
My truth: I try to be an open parent so that my girls will feel comfortable coming to me about anything. I fear that they won't open up to me and I will have missed my chance to make them feel comfortable and loved.
What is your truth? Share it with us @allmommyissues in our FB group.